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View from the window

A great note for all to read it will take just 37 seconds to read this and change your thinking

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room’s only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the
room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by.

Although the other man couldn’t hear the band – he could see it. In his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days and weeks passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window.. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside..

He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed.
It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window
The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.
She said, ‘Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.’
Epilogue

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situation
Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is dou

bled

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can’t buy
T

oday is a gift, that’s why it is called the present.’
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Smart woman knows her place

WOMEN WHO KNOW THEIR PLACE
Barbara Walters, of 20/20, did a story on gender roles in Kabul
,Afghanistan , several years before the Afghan conflict.. She noted
that women customarily walked five paces behind their husbands.
She recently returned to Kabul and observed that women still walk
behind their husbands. Despite the overthrow of the oppressive Taliban
regime, the women now seem to, and are happy to, maintain the old
custom.
Ms. Walters approached one of the Afghani women and asked, ‘Why do you
now seem happy with an old custom that you once tried so desperately
to change?’
The woman looked Ms. Walters straight in the eyes, and without
hesitation said, ‘Land Mines’.WOMEN WHO KNOW THEIR PLACE

Barbara Walters, of 20/20, did a story on gender roles in Kabul
,Afghanistan , several years before the Afghan conflict.. She noted
that women customarily walked five paces behind their husbands.

She recently returned to Kabul and observed that women still walk
behind their husbands. Despite the overthrow of the oppressive Taliban
regime, the women now seem to, and are happy to, maintain the old
custom.

Ms. Walters approached one of the Afghani women and asked, ‘Why do you
now seem happy with an old custom that you once tried so desperately
to change?’

The woman looked Ms. Walters straight in the eyes, and without
hesitation said, ‘Land Mines’.

Seeds from his garden

Don’t tell God how big your storm is; Tell the storm how big your God is!!!

This is one of the most beautiful emails I have ever received …..
Please don’t close or delete this one before reading!

An Angel says, ‘Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn’t happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.’

1. Pray
2. Go to bed on time.


3. Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.

4. Say No to projects that won’t fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.


5. Delegate tasks to capable others.


6. Simplify and unclutter your life.


7. Less is more. (Although one is often not enough, two are often too many).


8. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.


9. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don’t lump the hard things all together.


10. Take one day at a time.


11. Separate worries from concerns . If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you do and let go of the anxiety .. If you can’t do anything about a situation, forget it.

12. Live within your budget; don’t use credit cards for ordinary
purchases.

13. Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key
buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.


14. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut).. This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.


15. Do something for the Kid in You everyday.

16. Carry a Bible with you to read while waiting in line.

17. Get enough rest


18. Eat right.


19 Get organized so everything has its place.

20. Listen to a tape while driving that can help improve your quality of life.

21. Write down thoughts and inspirations.


22. Every day, find time to be alone.


23. Having problems? Talk to God on the spot. Try to nip small problems in the bud. Don’t wait until it’s time to go to bed to try and pray.

24. Make friends with Godly people.


25. Keep a folder of favorite scriptures on hand.


26. Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good ‘Thank you Jesus .’


27. Laugh.


28.. Laugh some more!


29. Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all

30. Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best they can).


31. Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).

32. Sit on your ego


33 Talk less; listen more.

34. Slow down.


35. Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the
universe…


36 Every night before bed, think of one thing you’re grateful for that
you’ve never been grateful for before.
GOD HAS A WAY OF TURNING THINGS AROUND FOR YOU.

‘If God is for us, who can be against us?’

Daughters are forever

Once A Pregnant Woman was discussing with her Husband – “Dear, I am going to have our baby in two months, aren’t you excited?”
Husband – “Of course! A lot sweetheart, I can’t wait for that moment.”
Pregnant wife – “But still you haven’t told me what you are expecting… will it be a boy or girl?”
Husband – “(hahaha) does it make any difference?”

Pregnant wife – “No it doesn’t, but still everyone has some things… like, if it will be a boy I will do this or if it would be a girl I will do this and so on.”

Husband – “Oh! That way? Oh yes, I have some things in my mind about that.”

Pregnant wife – “Really! Tell me too.”
Husband – “If we have a boy, I will teach him all mischievous things. I will teach him maths, we will go for sports, I will teach him fishing and so on.”

Pregnant wife – “Ha.. Ha … And what what if its a girl?”
Husband – “If we have a girl… I will not have to teach her anything.”

Pregnant wife – “Why?”
Husband – “Because she will be the one who will teach me all the things, again…like how to dress, how to eat, what to say… what not to say. In short, she will be my second mom…and She will consider me as her hero even if I do not do anything special, She will always understand when I will refuse her for something. She will always compare her husband to be me. No matter how old she will be… she will always want that I should treat her like my baby doll. She will fight with the world for me and if someone will hurt me, she will never forgive that person…

Pregnant wife – “So you mean to say that your daughter will do all those things but your son will not?”
Husband – “No.. no! May be he will do the same but he will learn to do them. But daughters are born with it. Being the father of a daughter is the pride for any man.”

Pregnant wife – “But darling, she will not be with us forever.”
Husband – “Yes, but we will be with her, in her heart, forever. So it really doesn’t make a difference where she goes.
Daughters are Angels… Born with Unconditional Love & Care…Forever

Spirit of sharing

A lovely little girl was holding two apples with both hands.

Her mum came in and softly asked her little daughter with a smile; my sweetie, could you give your mum one of your two apples?

The girl looked up at her mum for some seconds, then she suddenly took a quick bite on one apple, and then quickly on the other.

The mum felt the smile on her face freeze. She tried hard not to reveal her disappointment.

Then the little girl handed one of her bitten apples to her mum,and said: mummy, here you are. This is the sweeter one.

No matter who you are, how experienced you are, and how knowledgeable you think you are, always delay judgement.

Give others the privilege to explain themselves.

What you see may not be the reality. Never conclude for others.

Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.

Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.

Those who apologize first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.

Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you any thing but because they see you as a true friend.

Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.

Those who take out time to chat with you, do not mean they are jobless or less busy, but they know the importance of keeping in touch.

One day, all of us will get separated from each other; we will miss our conversations of everything & nothing; the dreams that we had.

English words

When you are bored just think about a few things that don’t make sense …like ;
🤔

1. If poison expires, is it more poisonous or is it no longer poisonous?
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2. Which letter is silent in the word “Scent,” the S or the C?
🤔

3. Do twins ever realize that one of them is unplanned?
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4. Why is the letter W, in English, called double U? Shouldn’t it be called double V?
🤔

5. Maybe oxygen is slowly killing you and It just takes 75-100 years to fully work.
🤔

6. Every time you clean something, you just make something else dirty.
🤔

7. The word “swims” upside-down is still “swims”
🤔

8. 100 years ago everyone owned a horse and only the rich had cars. Today everyone has cars and only the rich own horses.
🤔

9. If you replace “W” with “T” in “What, Where and When”, you get the answer to each of them.
🤔

10. If you rip a hole in a net, there are actually fewer holes in it than there were before
🤔

It’s time to put the kettle on 😂😂😂

Paid in full

Once *Life’s Gifts Are In Disguise*

A young man was getting ready to graduate college. For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer’s showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told him that was all he wanted.

As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his father had purchased the car. Finally, on the morning of his graduation his father called him into his private study. His father told him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son a beautiful wrapped gift box.

Curious, but somewhat disappointed the young man opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bible. Angrily, he raised his voice at his father and said, “With all your money you give me a Bible?” and stormed out of the house, leaving the holy book.

Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business. He had a beautiful home and wonderful family, but realized his father was very old, and thought perhaps he should go to him. He had not seen him since that graduation day. Before he could make arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son.

He needed to come home immediately and take care things. When he arrived at his father’s house, sudden sadness and regret filled his heart. He began to search his father’s important papers and saw the still new Bible, just as he had left it years ago. With tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages.

As he read those words, a car key dropped from an envelope taped behind the Bible. It had a tag with the dealer’s name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation, and the words…PAID IN FULL.

*How many times do we miss Life’s gifts because they are not packaged as we expected*?

*Good night and God bless you* 🍎🍎🍎🍎🍎
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The story of democracy and republic

Difference between
Independence day and Republic …
Independence day is the day, India became free from the British rule.
Republic day is the day , Indian people became the rulers of independent India.

Independence day is celebrated on 15th August ( from 1947).
Republic day is celebrated on 26th Jan ( from 1950).

On independence day, India secured its own National Flag.
On republic day, India declared its own constitution and officially adopted its National Anthem.
Removed all the Rajas, Maharajas, Nawabs, Sultans and other hereditary rulers from power.

Independent country means, free from any external ( foreign ) control.
Republic country means free from hereditary rulers.
It is a rule by the people’s representatives.
No hereditary head,( monarch or king or maharaja or nawab or Sultan )
In a Republic, the rulers are not selected by hereditary status but elected by the people’s mandate.

UK, even though Democratic, because the Queen is the Head of the State ( UK), it is not a Republic.
Japan, even though Democratic, because the Emperor is the Head of the State (Japan), it is not Republic.
India is Democratic as well as Republic. ( because there are no hereditary rulers )
Like India USA is Democratic as well as Republic. ( there are no hereditary rulers )
India is proud to be DEMOCRATIC as well as REPUBLIC.

Democratic : Demos means people, democracy means rule of the people.
Republic : Res Publica means public matter, Public are the owners or rulers. No monarch ( king).

India is an Independent country which means, India is a Sovereign country .
( Sovereign means free from any other country’s control )
In the preamble ( Introduction ) the Indian Constitution says.
India is “Sovereign Socialist Secular Democratic Republic”.

Sovereign = Totally free from any external control (of any country) .
Socialist = Adopting elements of socialism.
Secular = Neutral in the religious matters.
Democratic = Demos ( Greek) means People = Democracy means rule of the people.
Republic = No hereditary rulers. Rulers are elected by the people.

On independence day, India got freedom from British. The British flag was brought down from ramparts of Red Fort.
and Indian National flag was hoisted by the first PM Pandit Jawaharal Nehru at the midnight of 14th August..
On Republic Day , Indians got right to vote and elect their government.
On Republic day , India got its First President of Indian Republic ( Dr.Rajendra Prasad )
On Republic day , Indian Constitution came into force.

On Independence Day the Prime Minister ( Head of the Government ) hoists the National flag on the ramparts of Red Fort..
On Republic Day, the President ( Head of the State or country) hoists the National flag on the ramparts of Red Fort.
The president is the head of the state. Here state means country ( India). Not states like Karnataka, TN, Andhra , etc,.

PM is the Head of the Government, President is the Head of the State ( Country-India)).
PM is the real Chief executive, President is the nominal Chief Executive.
In reality PM is powerful than President .

In simple terms :
On Independence day, the British rule was thrown out.
: On Republic day, the people’s rule was brought in.

Life is lucky

Recent 3 incidents which have shaken us & made us rethink where we are moving.

1. Man, who was owner of Rs 12000 crores empire *Raymonds* is now living in rented room on hand to mouth basis because his Son has shown him the Exit door.

2. A Billionaire Woman who died in her posh Flat in Mumbai , her body discovered a year later which had became skelton in one year and her millionaire son did not even bother to know about her, in the last one year.

3. An IAS level officer committed suicide because he was unable to cope up with the stress of his family issues.

Whatever you have in your life *TODAY*, please be happy with that.

Michael Schumacher, one of the greatest drivers of Formula 1, is forgotten and fighting for his life after a ski accident in 2013 when he sustained severe head injuries! He weighs a mere 40lbs today and is fighting for his life daily.

To think… he won 91 GP and was 7 (seven) times world champion. The speed was in his soul but on a day of relaxation in a ski resort, fate intervened and his life changed forever!

To-date, his medical bill is around 14million Euros

wife had to sell his properties to pay the medical expenses.

His tragedy could be a lesson in life for all of us. There is nothing permanent in this *short sojourn on earth*. Why bicker about race and religion when we all end up as skulls and skeletons without a difference!

You need money to survive but you need not be consumed by it.

Do not be unkind to yourself by saying you will enjoy tomorrow as tomorrow may never come.

Do not give excuses to have a good time with family and friends. For in the end, only they matter.

All we have today is *today’s time*. Let’s do good & learn to live a *contented life*!

Have no grudges with any body,

we just have today..

Thanks to the person who composed and sent me such a good message.

Care for your father

“What If This Was Your Father, Doctor?”

“Doctor, I want to know about this illness. I want to understand it” she said.
It had taken me an entire medical career and a lot of experience to understand this disease in steps, no neurologist in the world claims to have fully understood it. It was my duty to simplify things for her, but it was impossible to transfer years of knowledge and experience in few minutes. I decided to give it a try. If I learn to understand the patient and relative one step more, I will be a better doctor hopefully. This lady, with her Prada and Dior accessories, also appeared well educated.

“Your father has frontotemporal dementia, a condition that causes progressive loss of memory and abnormal mentation, thoughts, or behavior. This is because certain parts of his brain degenerate faster.” I started.
“One minute doctor” she interrupted “How does that explain why he starts undressing, passing urine anywhere in front of others, even children or guests? He uses such foul language sometimes”.

I hate being interrupted. Especially when someone butts in a second question before I finish answering the first. But I must accommodate the patient’s and the relative’s anxiety.
“That is because we have an area in the brain that controls our behavior, stops us from doing social-inappropriate things. This is why we stop from doing certain things in certain situations, while we retain the ability to do them in privacy. That is called inhibition. When those areas in the brain degenerate, there is thus a ‘disinhibition’, whereby the patient does not know what is inappropriate. Somewhat similar to losing mental control after taking alcohol”.
“So the blood supply is cut off in the brain?” she fired.
“I never said that. I said this is due to degeneration. The cells in his brain die faster. Although at this age loss of blood supply is an additional reason for worsening”. When you know too much of something, it is difficult to not confuse.

You know, I am no Mangeshkar or Tendulkar myself, but this is like asking Lataji “I want to understand music and sing that song just like you” or telling Sachin “I want to make a century like you right now. Teach me cricket in ten minutes”. What they have learnt in decades with extreme hard work cannot be taught / understood or explained in few minutes. I can explain it in a nutshell, but it is not possible to ensure that the relative or patient “completely understood” everything I knew. But then again, the better this lady understood the disease, the better she will care for her father. So I decided another approach.

“Ma’m, I request you to please read about this disease from these two websites. Then write down your questions and please book another appointment. We will save a lot of random discussion then.” I told her.
“Ok Doctor” she agreed reluctantly “But tell me what you would have done if this was your father. I thought that with so many advances and researchers, there must be some good cure by now for such diseases” she said. The hidden disdainful sarcasm didn’t escape me. I ignored it.

“Now please tell me the list of all medicines that your father is currently taking, and their doses” I asked her.
She emptied a huge bag upon my table, with over 20 medicines from different pathies, some unlabeled, and including some bottled oils. She started asking her father one by one, he wouldn’t reply.
“I don’t know doctor” she said, frustrated. “He lives alone near my house, and takes these medicines by himself. We lost my mom few years ago. I guess some of these oils are for his massage”.
Some of those medicines were past an expiry date. The old man hadn’t a clue what he was taking.

“But you just told me he has severe memory problems and cannot understand much” I questioned.
“Yes, but we thought he knew what medicines he was taking” she said.
I did not want to embarrass her further.© Dr. Rajas Deshpande
“Ma’m, wouldn’t it be better if you understood the daily necessities of your father before you questioned anyone else about his disease? You can ask the doctor any number of questions, it is my duty to answer them. But I would definitely not have left my father to look after himself in such a situation.”
“No, doc, we are looking for a care center for him already. I cannot look after him, I have my own family and the kids need all my attention”.
“Then please stop blaming the medical researchers for not finding a cure for everything. Please accept that everyone ages and needs care, the same care that you were provided as a child”.
I didn’t want her to be unhappy, it was also my prerogative to understand her situation. I reassured her:
“Please read about this well, and come back next week, I am sure that at least a few problems can be resolved. I want to help you and him”.

What would happen if there was a cure for everything? How many of them elderlies will be taken care of, provided for? How long will their children look after them? In most cases, even the healthiest of parents are considered a nuisance once they have grown up the grandchildren. After that, they become an irritating liability.
Then, the annoyance of having to look after them, the exasperation of even a small illness they may have, and the extreme anger to have to spend time and money for their healthcare / treatment is all unloaded upon the doctor. While we are learning to deal with this in our everyday practice, I have decided to spend an extra minute to educate the family about their own responsibilities in every such case.

As she left the room she asked “Doc, he is elderly, you must give him some concession”.
I smiled. This wasn’t a medical question. It was my turn not to reply now.

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