Category Archives: Values

Intelligence vs wisdom

Lao Tzu’s philosophy.

Differences between Intelligence and Wisdom….

Intelligence leads to arguments. Wisdom leads to settlements.

Intelligence is power of will. Wisdom is power over will.

Intelligence is heat, it burns. Wisdom is warmth, it comforts.

Intelligence is pursuit of knowledge, it tires the seeker. Wisdom is pursuit of truth, it inspires the seeker.

Intelligence is holding on. Wisdom is letting go.

Intelligence leads you. Wisdom guides you.

An intelligent man thinks he knows. A wise man knows he thinks.

An intelligent man always tries to prove his point. A wise man knows there really is no point.

An intelligent man freely gives unsolicited advice. A wise man keeps his counsel.

An intelligent man understands what is being said. A wise man understands what is left unsaid.

An intelligent man speaks when he has to say something. A wise man speaks when he has something to say.

An intelligent man sees everything as relative. A wise man sees everything as related.

An intelligent man is always insistent. A wise man is ever consistent.

An intelligent man tries to control the flow. A wise man goes with the flow.

An intelligent man is wordy. A wise man is worldly.

An intelligent man preaches. A wise man reaches.

Sometimes it is better to be kind than to be right.

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Growing old

As I’ve aged, I’ve become kinder to, and less critical of, myself. I’ve become my own friend.

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world, too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read, or play on the computer until4 AM? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60s & 70s, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love, I will.

I will walk the beach, in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves, with abandon, if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set. They, too, will get old.

I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And, eventually, we remember the important things.

Sure, over the years, my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break, when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody’s beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength, and understanding, and compassion. A heart never broken, is pristine, and sterile, and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and too many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don’t question myself anymore. I’ve even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being older. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day (if I feel like it).

Friends for life

I never sat on a sofa with my father & after my marriage, he had already left me…….
“Many years ago, after I got married I was sitting on a couch on a hot, humid day, sipping frozen juice during a visit to my father.

As I talked about adult life, marriage, responsibilities, and obligations, my father thoughtfully stirred the ice cubes in his glass and cast a clear, sober look at me.

“Never forget your friends,” he advised, “they will become more important as you get older.”

“Regardless of how much you love your family and the children you happen to have, you will always need friends.

Remember to go out with them occasionally, do activities with them, call them …”

“What strange advice!” I thought. “I just entered the married world, I am an adult and surely my wife and the family that we will start will be everything I need to make sense of my life.”

Yet I obeyed him; kept in touch with my friends and annually increased their number. Over the years, I became aware that my father knew what he was talking about!

In as much as time and nature carry out their designs and mysteries on a man, friends are the bulwarks of his life.

After some years of life, here is what I learned:

Time passes.
Life goes on.
The distances increase
Children grow up & and become independent and although the it breaks the parents’ heart but they are often separated from them.

Jobs come and go.

Illusions, desires, attractions, sex … weaken.

People do what they should not do.

The parents die.

Colleagues forget the favors.

The races are over.

But, true friends are always there, no matter how long or how many miles they are.

A friend is never more distant than the reach of a need, reaching out to you intervening in your favor, waiting for you with open arms or with blessings for your life.

When we started this adventure called LIFE, we did not know of the incredible joys or sorrows that were ahead.

We did not know how much we would need from one another.
Love your parents, take care of your children, but keep a group of good friends.

Dedicated to all my Friends.❤❤❤

True Leadership

The qualities of skilful leadership

If you want to be a leader who attracts quality people, the key is to become a person of quality yourself. Leadership is the ability to attract someone to the gifts, skills, and opportunities you offer as an owner, as a manager, as a parent. I call leadership the great challenge of life. What’s important in leadership is refining your skills. All great leaders keep working on themselves until they become effective. Here are some specifics:

Learn to be strong but not rude

It is an extra step you must take to become a powerful, capable leader with a wide range of reach. Some people mistake rudeness for strength. It’s not even a good substitute.

Learn to be kind but not weak

We must not mistake kindness for weakness. Kindness isn’t weak. Kindness is a certain type of strength. We must be kind enough to tell somebody the truth. We must be kind enough and considerate enough to lay it on the line. We must be kind enough to tell it like it is and not deal in delusion.

Learn to be bold but not a bully

It takes boldness to win the day. To build your influence, you’ve got to walk in front of your group. You’ve got to be willing to take the first arrow, tackle the first problem, and discover the first sign of trouble.

You’ve got to learn to be humble, but not timid

You can’t get to the high life by being timid. Some people mistake timidity for humility. Humility is almost a God-like word. A sense of awe. A sense of wonder. An awareness of the human soul and spirit. An understanding that there is something unique about the human drama versus the rest of life. Humility is a grasp of the distance between us and the stars, yet having the feeling that we’re part of the stars. So humility is a virtue; but timidity is a disease. Timidity is an affliction. It can be cured, but it is a problem.

Be proud but not arrogant

It takes pride to win the day. It takes pride to build your ambition. It takes pride in community. It takes pride in cause, in accomplishment. But the key to becoming a good leader is being proud without being arrogant. In fact I believe the worst kind of arrogance is arrogance from ignorance. It’s when you don’t know that you don’t know. Now that kind of arrogance is intolerable. If someone is smart and arrogant, we can tolerate that. But if someone is ignorant and arrogant, that’s just too much to take.

Develop humour without folly

That’s important for a leader. In leadership, we learn that it’s okay to be witty, but not silly. It’s okay to be fun, but not foolish.

Lastly, deal in realities. Deal in truth. Save yourself the agony. Just accept life like it is. Life is unique. Some people call it tragic, but I’d like to think it’s unique. The whole drama of life is unique. It’s fascinating. And I’ve found that the skills that work well for one leader may not work at all for another. But the fundamental skills of leadership can be adapted to work well for just about everyone: at work, in the community, and at home.

Balance in the Bible

*BALANCE*

1. *Noah* built the *ark* by faith but, he used measurements. There is a place for rational thinking in our walk of faith. Not all decisions should be made with blind hope!

2. *Sarah’s pregnancy* was a miracle, but it took nine months just like any other. God’s plans do not negate the importance of process. Sometime you need to wait or work it out.

3. The *stone* that killed *Goliath* might have been anointed, but *David’s skill* was also involved. Developing skills does not mean you are not anointed. If you play a piano, play it to the fullest. Don’t take us through the agony of listening to your cacophony in the name of “singing to the Lord”. Skills are important. There is nothing rude with telling that sister “you can’t sing, find something else to do in the house of God”.

4. *Esther* received favor to become *queen*, but she also bathed and prepared her appearance. Preparation is key to become fit for the occasion. Get knowledge, go to school. Stop blaming auto-correct, check your spelling even here on social media. Prepare, because some of us expect nothing but the best from you!

5. The *promised land* was full of milk and honey, but they also had to plow, feed cattle, and take care of sheep. Miracles are communication tools that God uses to instill trust, faith and the knowledge of his nature. You need to work, don’t expect miracles in a specific area of life all the time. No one pays rent for a full year with miracle money. We need it, we want it, but God wants what is permanent.

6. *God* is the one who *created human capacity* to memorize things, yet he also told many prophets to write their message. Spirituality does not mean we should not use tools to package the message.

7. *Ruth* received favor to marry *Boaz*, but the coaching of Naomi was necessary. Human coaching is necessary, you need to submit and learn from someone. It will spare you from silly mistakes.

8. *Moses* could hear directly from God, but he was wearing himself out with work, it was the wisdom of his father in law that saved him from dying a premature death with exhaustion. It is wisdom to put on a seat belt, brush teeth, and adhere to medical advise. Being spiritual does not mean asking angels to cook food for you!

9. *Namaan* was a mighty soldier and a friend of Kings, but he acted as influenced by a Jewish maiden. Even important people are influenced by”insignificant”people. The key thing is proximity that generates influence.

Mishandling of the natural world can cause hinderance to progress, and a total neglect of the spiritual world will definitely cause total failure in all areas of life.

*Balance is the key.*

Weakness or strength

An Inspirational Story for today ~ Weakness or Strength

Sometimes our biggest weakness can become our biggest strength. Take, for example, the story of one 10-year-old boy who decided to study Judo despite the fact that he had lost his left arm in a devastating car accident.

The boy began lessons with an old Japanese Judo master. The boy was doing well, so he couldn’t understand why, after three months of training the master had taught him only one move.

“Sensei,” the boy finally said, “Shouldn’t I be learning more moves?”

“This is the only move you know, but this is the only move you’ll ever need to know.” – the sensei replied.

Not quite understanding, but believing in his teacher, the boy kept training.

Several months later, the sensei took the boy to his first tournament. Surprising himself, the boy easily won his first two matches. The third match proved to be more difficult, but after some time, his opponent became impatient and charged; the boy deftly used his one move to win the match. Still amazed by his success, the boy was now in the finals.

This time, his opponent was bigger, stronger, and more experienced. For a while, the boy appeared to be overmatched. Concerned that the boy might get hurt, the referee called a time-out. He was about to stop the match when the sensei intervened.

“No,” the sensei insisted, “Let him continue.”

Soon after the match resumed, his opponent made a critical mistake: he dropped his guard. Instantly, the boy used his move to pin him. The boy had won the match and the tournament. He was the champion.

On the way home, the boy and sensei reviewed every move in each and every match. Then the boy summoned the courage to ask what was really on his mind.

“Sensei, how did I win the tournament with only one move?”

“You won for two reasons,” the sensei answered. “First, you’ve almost mastered one of the most difficult throws in all of judo. And second, the only known defense for that move is for your opponent to grap your left arm.”

The boy’s biggest weakness had become his biggest strength. *Sometimes our biggest weakness can become our biggest strength*.

Faith in God

Martha, a poorly dressed lady with a look of defeat on her face, walked into a grocery store.
She approached the owner of the store in a most humble manner and asked if he would give her a few groceries on credit.

She softly explained that her husband was very ill and unable to work, they had seven children and they needed food.

The grocer, scoffed at her and requested that she leave his store at once.

In desperation, she pleaded: ‘Please, sir! I will bring you the money just as soon as I can.’

The grocer told her he could not give her credit, since she did not have a charge account at his store.
A well-dressed stranger standing beside the counter, overheard the conversation between the two. He walked forward and told the grocer that he would pay for whatever she needed for her family. The grocer said in a very reluctant voice, ‘Do you have a grocery list?’

Martha replied, ‘Yes sir.’ ‘O.K’ he said, ‘put your grocery list on the scales and whatever your grocery list weighs, I will give you that amount in groceries.’

Martha hesitated a moment with a bowed head, then she reached into her purse and took out a piece of paper and scribbled something on it. She then laid the piece of paper on the scale carefully with her head still bowed.

The eyes of the grocer showed amazement when the scales went down and stayed down.

The grocer, staring at the scales, turned slowly to the stranger and said begrudgingly, ‘I can’t believe it.’

The stranger smiled and the grocer started putting the groceries on the other side of the scales. The scale did not balance so he continued to put more and more groceries on them until the scales would hold no more.

The grocer stood there in utter frustration. Finally, he grabbed the piece of paper from the scales and looked at it in great amazement.

It was not a grocery list, it was a prayer, which said:

‘Dear Lord, you know my needs and I am leaving this in your hands.’

The grocer gave her the groceries that he had gathered and stood in stunned silence.

Martha thanked him and left the store. The stranger who was Jesus, handed a Gold coin to the grocer and said the Creator knows how much a prayer weighs.’

THE POWER: When you receive this, say a prayer. That’s all you have to do.

Just stop right now, and say a prayer of thanks for your own good fortune…

I believe if you will send this out with prayer in faith, you will receive what you need God to do in you and your families’ life..

So dear friend, trust God to know your very own needs, heal the sick, provide food for the hungry, clothes and shelter for those that don’t have as we do.

*My prayer for you today*:

_*The eyes beholding this message shall not behold evil, the hands that will send this message to others shall not labor in vain, the mouth saying Jesus Saviour to this prayer shall laugh forever. Remain in God’s love as you send this prayer to everybody on your list. Have a lovely journey of life! Trust in the Lord with all your heart and He will never fail you because He is LOVE*_!

TAKE 60 SECONDS and send this on quickly and within hours, you will have caused a multitude of people to pray to God for each other. Then sit back and watch the power and love of God in your life.

I am a teacher

Once I AM A TEACHER………….. 
I May be a School Teacher/ 

I May be a College Lecturer /

I May be a University Professor.
Behind That Doctor, 

It is Me, a Teacher……….. 
Behind That Engineer, 

It is Me, a Teacher………. 
Behind That Statistician, 

It is Me, a Teacher………. 
Behind That Nuclear Physicist, 

It is Me, a Teacher………. 
Behind That Mathematician, 

It is Me, a Teacher………. 
Behind That  Scientist, 

It is Me, a Teacher………. 
Behind That Zoologist, 

It is Me, a Teacher………. 
Behind That Entomologist, 

It is Me, a Teacher……….
Behind That Botanist, 

It is Me, a Teacher………. 
Behind That Economist, 

It is Me, a Teacher………. 
Behind That Entrepreneur, 

It is Me, a Teacher……….
Behind That Lawyer, 

It is Me, a Teacher……….
Behind That  Political Scientist, 

It is Me, a Teacher……….
Behind That  Psychologist, 

It is Me, a Teacher……….
Behind That  Musician, 

It is Me, a Teacher……….
Behind That  Architect, 

It is Me, a Teacher………. 
Behind That  Astrologer, 

It is Me, a Teacher……….
Behind That Astronomer,

It is Me, a Teacher…………..
I Carry the Light Even Though They Mostly Make  Fun Of Me By Their Uncharitable Jokes … But I am a Teacher…….. 
I Don’t Qualify for a Bungalow or a Villa nor Earn Enough to Buy an Expensive House or a Car…………. Like Corrupt Officers and Corrupt Politicians. But Yes, I am a Teacher………..
Some Think or Even Say That I Have too Many Holidays. They  Never Know That I Spend Those Holidays Either Correcting Papers or Planning What and How I am Going to Teach When I Go Back to School/College/University /Institution…….. 

Because I am a Teacher…..
Sometimes I Get Confused and Even Get Stressed by the 

Ever-changing Policies Over What And How I Have to Teach……. 
Despite All That, I am a Teacher and I Love to Teach and I am Teaching ….
On Pay-days I Don’t Laugh as Corrupt Officers and Others Do, But by the Next Day I Love to Come With a Smile to Those That I Teach…..   Because I am a Teacher….
The Main Source of My Satisfaction is When I See Them Growing. I See Them Succeeding. I See Them Having All Those Assets. I See Them Bravely Facing the World and its Challenges. And I Say Yes I Have Taught in Spite of Living in a World Opened by Google.. Because I am a Teacher…. Yes I am a Teacher…….. 
It Doesn’t Matter How They Look at Me,  It doesn’t Matter How Much More They Earn Than I Do.
It Doesn’t Matter That They Drive While I Walk Because All What They Have is Through Me, A Teacher…
Whether They Acknowledge Me or Not……   I am a Teacher….
This Message is Dedicated to All the Amazing Teachers , Lecturers And Professors .
You May Pass This Message to All the Teachers / Lecturers / Professors  If You Like And Make Them Proud  of Their Careers .

True meaning 

Wonderfully described definitions……._*
*CIGARETTE:*

A pinch of tobacco 

rolled in paper 

with fire at one end 

and a fool at the other!
*MARRIAGE:*

It’s an agreement 

wherein 

a man loses his bachelor degree 

and a woman gains her master
*LECTURE:*

An art of transmitting Information 

from the notes of the lecturer 

to the notes of students 

without passing through the minds 

of either
*CONFERENCE:* 

The confusion of one man 

multiplied by the 

number present
*COMPROMISE:*

The art of dividing 

a cake in such a way that 

everybody believes 

he got the biggest piece
*TEARS:*

The hydraulic force by which 

masculine will power is 

defeated by feminine water-power!
*DICTIONARY:*

A place where divorce comes 

before marriage
*CONFERENCE ROOM:*

A place where everybody talks, 

nobody listens 

and everybody disagrees later on
*CLASSIC:*

A book 

which people praise, 

but never read
*SMILE:*

A curve 

that can set 

a lot of things straight!
*OFFICE:*

A place 

where you can relax 

after your strenuous 

home life
*ETC:* 

A sign 

to make others believe 

that you know 

more than 

you actually do
*COMMITTEE:* 

Individuals 

who can do 

nothing individually 

and sit to decide 

that nothing can be done 

together
*EXPERIENCE:*

The name 

men give 

to their 

Mistakes
*ATOM BOMB:* 

An invention 

to bring an end 

to all 

inventions
*DIPLOMAT:*

A person 

who tells you 

to go to hell 

in such a way 

that you actually look forward 

to the trip
*OPPORTUNIST:*

A person 

who starts taking bath 

if he 

accidentally falls 

into a river
*MISER:*

A person 

who lives poor 

so that 

he can die RICH!
*FATHER:*

A banker 

provided by 

nature
*CRIMINAL:*

A guy 

no different 

from the other, 

unless he gets caught
*BOSS:*

Someone 

who is early 

when you are late 

and late 

when you are early
*POLITICIAN:* 

One who 

shakes your hand 

before elections 

and your Confidence 

Later

😊😊😊

Be a doctor to yourself.

A Dr  graduated to be the best and finest surgeon in the world. At  age 30, he got married.  
The joy of marrying a surgeon attracted his wife to him.
Few weeks after marriage leave he got back to work, thereafter he hardly spent some quality time with his wife.
Their relationship began to go sour.
Not that he’s flirting around with other ladies. Not that he now had a bad company. But, at his work place, he was seen as TOO IMPORTANT.
Every patient wanted him. The nurses loved him to handle all the surgeries at hand. 
One day, he got home very early from work. The wife was glad that he was at least early today. Just as he was dropping his briefcase, his phone rang and the following conversation went on.
Nurse: Sir, we need you now at the hospital. We have an emergency.
He said : I’m on my way.
The wife was angry with him. As usual, he told her, “Sorry”.
This went on for so long.
But one unfortunate day, he had an accident. And….
He died!
The other doctors and surgeons mourned him. They gave his wife cash to take care of herself.
But, can money replace love?
Can some one ‘ replace a whole man?
You know the answer…
Not too long after, the wife went to that same hospital for some check up.
She was shocked to see someone in her husband’s former post. Not only that, she heard someone calling the new surgeon as the best in that town.
She wept bitterly…
Do you know you are replaceable?
Do you know you are NOT too important?
Do you know someone else can do better than what you are doing or what you can do?
Do you know you are cherished now just because you can still perform your right?
Do you know you are celebrated because you are available and useful?
No one’s saying you should not help out. No one’s saying you should not be a celebrity. No one’s saying you should not help others. No one’s saying you should be not punctual 
BUT,
Take time to rest. Take time to relax. Spend time with yourself.
As bitter as those truths, many of you fail to accept that…
Tread softly… Go gently…
Your family Values YOU
Only they miss the presence of you not the rest of the world.